The Secret to Happiness

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I once believed that happiness was a distinct emotion, but my perspective has shifted. What I previously identified as happiness is now synonymous with "peace of mind."

For me, happiness is achieved when I am present, calm, and in my "well-being".

The other day, my husband was enjoying Formula 1 with his beer by his side, feeling cozy and ready to watch TV. In that moment, he found happiness. However, I found it quite dull.

Happiness varies from person to person.

Happiness is a mental state, like any other emotion, that arises from our thoughts.

Happiness is the sense of peace and contentment we feel when we are at ease.

It differs for everyone.

Recently, we discussed the Happiness Trap in The Membership, which refers to how we can become trapped in the belief that "when I get this, I'll be happy," "When I achieve that, I'll be happy," or "when I make this much money, I'll be happy"...

Happiness is not a single thing or event; rather, it is a sense of peace and contentment.

If you reflect on what brings you joy, it is likely something that brings you into the present moment and allows you to experience peace of mind.

To some extent, happiness is a decision we make - we can alter our perspective on something to allow those happy feelings to emerge.

Sometimes, things that would typically bring us joy may not do so if we find ourselves in a low state of mind. Once again, it is our thoughts about things that prevent us from experiencing happiness when we would otherwise feel happy.

Within The Membership, our session All About The Happiness Trap is a great place to start exploring this understanding further. The Membership is where I spend my time sharing The Three Principles that changed my life with our members, and hosting two live group coaching calls a week.

 "Thank you so much again for this membership, I would never be who I am today without you!! Each day I am living to the fullest, I am confident, I stand up for myself, I love myself and that is all because I found you and this membership! It just makes me so happy to see new people join and I know that they have a life of peace in front of them."
- The Membership, Anonymous, April 2023

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Finding herself in a mental hospital for a month aged 22, her worst fears of going crazy had come true! Sarie truly believed she was broken for many years, and now sees that this was in part due to massively over complicating what it meant be a human being. After a long period of exploring and training as a psychotherapist, still burning out every 18 months for another ten years, Sarie finally found the answer, and now shares the surprising simplicity of it all to help others get the same relief. 

Sarie has trained as a transactional analysis psychotherapist, as well as working and training in many other therapeutic disciplines, such as NLP, CBT, DBT and hypnotherapy. Sarie is also an author, celebrity coach and therapist, working with thousands of people a year, of all ages, all over the world. Her main aim is to help them really see the simplicity and beauty behind human nature, getting out of their heads and into their lives, being able to see that the inside out nature of life really is a gift. This removes limitations and stories they may hold about themselves, and as a result finding an ease and contentment in life they often never knew was possible. 
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