Exploring The Three Principles with Sarie Taylor
Is it even possible to become comfortable with the discomfort?
This was one of the big life changing aspects of my anxiety seeming less intense, and showing up less often: Me getting more comfortable with the discomfort of my experience.
I whole heartedly agree with Sydney Banks when he said,
“That if the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their own experience that alone would change the world.”
This has absolutely been my own personal experience, and I know it has also been life changing for so many others too. If you have worked with me or followed me for a little while you will know I like a light-hearted metaphor as it helps me understand things more, and I have one for you now:
Imagine you have an itch on your foot lay in bed one night.
It starts to feel a little uncomfortable, not unbearable but annoying maybe.
The urge to itch it gets greater and more intense the more you ‘think’ about it!
You then have a cross roads where you move form your comfy position and scratch it, or you can sit with the urge and discomfort and it passes.
It always passes and the less focus you place on it the quicker that happens.
So why don't we just 'itch it' if that's easier?
Well if you are anything like me, you may find that first itch intensifies the feeling after a few seconds and you need to itch again and harder and it carries on for far too long you may even end up hurting yourself by scratching too hard!
What on earth is Sarie telling us this for you may ask?
Well its the same with the feeling from our thoughts the discomfort that we may feel based on our thinking comes, and may feel uncomfortable.
What on earth is Sarie telling us this for you may ask?
Well its the same with the feeling from our thoughts the discomfort that we may feel based on our thinking comes, and may feel uncomfortable.
The more we focus on it, try and figure it out or analyse it (itch it) the worse it may get.
We may then find ourselves so lost in it that its all we can focus on our senses have gone wild for this irritating urge to itch and scratch that doesn’t seem to go away.
I don’t know about you but when this happens (and say I did start a whole scratch fest) the only time it goes away is when I do nothing!
I resist the urge, sit with the discomfort and eventually fall asleep and forget all about it!
I would love to hear what you think, can you relate to that urge to ‘do something?’
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